Whether you are married and laugh about it now, or are still single, we all hate those dreaded family members questioning our relationship status. I can picture it in my mind. My great aunt comes up to me shyly, she starts up a normal conversation, and then….BAM! Right in the middle of talking about the details of my job, she asks me about my love life. If you’re not like me, then maybe this doesn’t faze you at all. Maybe it doesn’t make you feel insecure, small, and start sweating profusely. But if you are anything like me, you need to be prepared with an answer. So here are some tips on what to say when your family starts snooping around your love life, not subtly I might add.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. It doesn’t make you less of a woman or asset to society, no matter what your age. So don’t apologize when someone asks about your relationships status. Instead of saying, “I’m not seeing anyone right now, sorry.” Just say you’re not seeing anyone. Even though it feels like your family members are out to get you, they are just asking because they care. They’re most likely confused why a great catch like you hasn’t been snatched up yet.
Don’t resort to this sort of pathetic behavior. Though it can be easy and a great feeling to elaborate that the date you went on with that guy last week had a lot of potential, when it didn’t, don’t do it. It will only hurt you later and lead to additional questions. And they may even ask to meet him…the horror.
Try your best to not create some fictitious, fantastic dream boat in your head, or pretend that the man you have a huge crush on is actually your boyfriend. Just be honest. And who knows? Maybe they were asking you because they wanted to set you up. And then you might’ve missed out on a date with your future husband. Probably not, but still, tell the truth.
Don’t Let It Become Awkward
I am a firm believer that nothing is awkward unless you make it awkward. So instead of letting an incredibly long pause happen after they ask that dreaded question, pick up right where the conversation left off. Singleness is not a big deal, no matter how old or young you are, and it shouldn’t be treated as something you need to be ashamed of.
Don’t Overkill It
By this I mean, don’t overdo your answer with fake happiness. Like, “Yes I am single, but I am really happy. And I can just focus on being my best self, and blah, blah, blah.” If you are sad about being single, that’s perfectly normal and ok; you don’t have to apologize for that or act super happy to try to mask your despair. Just react how you normally would if you were asked any other question.
Don’t Avoid It
If you know that you have a family member who will inevitably ask you about your relationship status, (I mean why can’t people just check Facebook), don’t avoid them the whole evening. That is just going to hurt their feelings and make them feel like they did something wrong. I am not saying you have to go out of your way for them to have the opportunity to ask you, but don’t avoid it either. Once again, there are plenty of people in the same boat as you are, and you have no reason to be embarrassed.
I hope that these tips helped you and even made you laugh about your current predicament! The next time you are asked about your relationship status, follow these tips, and I guarantee that you’ll feel much better.
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