The wedding day butterflies are definitely a normal thing for any bride or groom. If you are a bride who is nervous for her special day, or it is the morning of your big day and are freaking out, take a few deep breaths. Like I said, this is normal and you have nothing to be concerned about!
If you are the best friend of the bride and are reading this, then do not fret either! There are some ways that you can help your girl out and give her suggestions. Whichever category you fall under, read on to find out how to conquer this nervousness and get ready to have the experience of a lifetime.
1. The bride needs alone time!
Whether the bride needs to take a stroll by herself or simply retouch her makeup after the pictures alone, the bride needs to spend time by herself. It can get overwhelming when people around her are telling her to calm down and that everything will be okay. Reassuring her and telling her not to worry can sometimes make it worse. So encourage her to spend a few minutes alone, and afterwards, be a good friend to her, reassure her, and encourage her.
2. Drinks to settle the nerves.
Offer some wine or the bride’s favorite drink an hour or two before the ceremony to help calm the bride’s nerves. Now, the point of this is not to get her drunk, rather let her sip away some of the small nervousness she may have, whether it be alcohol or not. Get the other bridesmaids to join in as well, and have one last “Cheers!” together before the bride says I do.
3. Sing or dance it out!
Is the bride a Justin Bieber fan or does she enjoy dancing crazily to Taylor Swift’s famous Shake It Off? Blasting some of the bride’s favorite tunes and having a last minute jam session or dance party may be just what she needs to laugh and calm her nerves a little bit. Do not worry about asking her if she wants to sing or dance, just plug in the music and start dancing around her. She might just laugh at you and think that her girlfriends are crazy, but she might just join in. It is totally worth a shot!
4. Walk down memory lane.
The bride needs to be nostalgic for a few minutes and think back on some good memories. If you are the bridesmaid, encourage her to remember the first time she met her soon to be spouse or the first time she farted in front of him (just for kicks and giggles). If you are the bride, think of a memory that makes you laugh. Think of the memories that bring a smile to your face and that make you excited to marry your fiance.
5. Remember the outcome at the end of the day.
The bride needs to remember what the point of the day is. She needs to think about what is waiting for her at the end of that aisle and about how her new life is about to begin. Remembering that at the end of the day, when all of the months of planning and the moments that many had been waiting for are over, that the bride now gets the best gift of all: her husband and soulmate.
6. Alone time with the groom.
Whether it be after the ceremony or before at the first look, the bride and groom need to have some alone time at some point during the day. Let them have their time to sneak off and have a little privacy to themselves before they go from one thing to another for the rest of the day. Make sure the bride is reminded of the time that she will get to spend with her groom and that she should be excited to see how handsome he is.
Just remember, breathe. As a bride’s best friend, you need to be there for her throughout the course of the day. You need to remind her how beautiful she is and how this is going to be one of the best days of her life. And as a bride, remember what will be waiting for you at that altar! Your soulmate will be there to calm you and rub your fingers as he holds them. Cherish this day and get rid of that nervousness!
It is going to be AMAZING.