If you’ve recently gotten engaged, congratulations are in order. Because this is possibly the most exciting news that you’ve probably experienced so far in your lifetime, you may want to shout it from every roof top. Thanks to today’s latest technological advances and social media, you’ll find a variety of ways to break the news to your family members, friends and other loved ones. But there are certain circumstances where you should never announce your engagement, and they include the following:
Bragging
Although you may be excited about your engagement, you need to remember that it’s not a contest to see who gets married first. You want your social circle to be happy for you, so you shouldn’t come across like your boasting about your engagement. If a friend or sibling has been dating their partner for a long period of time, and they’re still not engaged, your gloating could be hurtful to them.
Posting it on Facebook Before Telling Close Friends and Family
The Internet and social media sites such as Twitter, Facebook and YouTube have become extremely popular in recent years. The same sites have also made it a great avenue where people can stay connected and share news both happy and sad. While you may be ready to tell the world that you’re engaged through the various outlets, you don’t want to make an announcement until after you’ve spoken with your close friends and family members. If you do, you may cause animosity with those who are closest to you. Smartphones have also become commonplace in the era of such technological advances. Refrain from calling or texting your family and friends and announce the news in person instead.
Right After Someone Told You Bad News
Hearing bad news such as the loss of a job or death of a loved one can dampen your spirits. It’s also not the correct time to share your engagement news. If the fact that it’s a little rude doesn’t seem to put a stop to your wanting to spread the news, think about the awkwardness that would follow afterward. It’s best to save such an important tidbit like your engagement for a time when all parties can share in the happiness of the moment.
At a Friends Engagement Party
If you’re celebrating a friend’s engagement at a party they are throwing, you don’t want to take the limelight away from them. While you may be bursting at the seams to share your excitement of getting engaged, you need to remember that this is their night to shine. You can plan on another date to divulge your plans. You may also want to tuck your ring in a safe spot at home in case someone notices the rock on your finger.
Before It’s Even Official
Ok, now this one is just a no, no. You may have discussed marriage or gone ring shopping together as a couple. Although it’s probably just a matter of time until your intended pops the question, you don’t want to make an announcement premature. Even if traditional marriage proposals aren’t your style, refrain from marking it official until after you both have decided to get married.
Without Making Sure Your Nails Look Good
The moment that you tell everyone that you’re engaged, the spotlight will be on your ring. You may also want to post pictures of the sparkling bauble on social media. Before you think about letting your friends, co-workers and family know about your engagement, you want to make sure your nails look stunning. Whether you get a professional manicure or you put on your own fresh coat of polish, you want to have the perfect backdrop to showcase your ring.
Telling People Without Your Partner
Your partner is instrumental in the engagement announcement. After all, you wouldn’t be getting married if it wasn’t for them. Although you may want to share the joy and excitement with everyone you see, you shouldn’t do it unless you’re together as a couple. This is especially important when you’re telling immediate family and close friends. It’s also the opportune time for your partner to divulge how they asked for your hand in marriage and whether you’ve decided upon a date for the wedding.
Committing to Your Bridal Party/Guest List Very Early On
Wedding plans will most likely change over the course of the upcoming months. Although you may have dreamed of a large wedding and huge guest list, your budget may say otherwise. You may also decide that you’d like to forego the traditional wedding venue in favor of a destination celebration in Italy. That’s why you shouldn’t commit to the specifics such as a guest list at the initial stage of your engagement. If you’re asked about certain arrangements, you could always tell friends and family that you choose to just bask in the happiness of the moment.
Clearly this is YOUR wedding and it is such a happy time, so it’s really up to you when and how you tell people. These are just a few things we have come across that seem to not be the best idea! But it’s your call, rock that ring, and shout it from the roof top!