Every relationship comes with its fair share of ups and downs. But, sometimes you just have to admit that your relationship is unhealthy. What are some ways to tell? If you have multiple or any of the signs we include below, you may need to evaluate if this relationship is right for you.
This could be physical, emotional, financial; you name it. No relationship is worth taking abuse. Talk to trusted family and friends to help you get out of that situation ASAP. If you feel like your life is in danger, call the abuse hotline or the police.
Lies, Lies, Lies
No one has time for a man who can’t tell the truth, plain and simple. If you have dealt with your man lying to you, even about small things, it is smart to consider leaving. Think about it this way, if he lies to you about what doesn’t matter, how can you tell that he is telling the truth about what actually matters? Count up the number of times that you have counted him lying to you, and consider if you can trust him. If you honestly can’t answer if you trust him, then it might be time to call it quits.
Has he cheated on you? Then it’s time to say goodbye. Cheating doesn’t necessarily have to mean that he did something physical with another woman. He could cheat on you emotionally through talking to women online or snap chatting other girls. Just because he hasn’t done the deed with someone else, doesn’t mean that he is innocent. You don’t have time in this life to waste your time on someone who takes you for granted.
He Treats You Terribly
Now, sometimes people have bad days and situations outside of your control that make them treat you horribly every once and awhile. But, if he is consistently putting you down in front of others, complaining about you, or name calling, it is time to leave. There are plenty of wonderful guys out there who will treat you with love and respect. Take some time to grow as a person and wait for them. No one should be stuck in a relationship where they are always feeling worse about themselves around their significant other.
Maybe for one reason or multiple, you just aren’t as close as you once were. This isn’t necessarily a reason to call it quits, but it is a wake-up call that you need to do something if you want to save your relationship. Be open with your significant other and set aside a time to talk about why you think you’ve drifted. Don’t be afraid to see a counselor, or work through this challenging time. However, if this isn’t the only factor in determining if you want to continue in a relationship, it might not be worth your time and effort.
You Have Different Life Goals
For any relationship to blossom, you need to agree on similar things. Do you want to have kids? Where do you want to live? What type of lifestyles do you want to live? These are all critical questions to consider. Make sure that your dreams and desires for the future are compatible. It will save you from a lot of future heartaches.
Yes, as you begin any relationship, you are going to have to spend some time figuring out how to communicate best with that person. But, if you have been dating for a long time and you still are having trouble saying what you need to say to one another, you need to get it figured out. Another issue could be if one of you tends to be unconfrontational, while the other likes to talk about anything and everything that is bothering them. Luckily, this in and of itself is not a reason to turn in the relationship towel, but have an honest talk about ways that you can communicate better, with him.
It’s An Emotional Roller Coaster
Would you describe your relationship as up and down? Or, do you sometimes relate to the soap opera relationships on TV? It can be exhausting to constantly be on pins and needles around someone you care about. I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to be in a relationship that is that unhealthy. If you find yourself more exhausted than joyed to see your significant other, it may be time to call it quits.
Every relationship needs two active participants, not just one. Don’t settle for someone who is not willing to put effort into helping grow your relationship. Likewise, if you feel like you show him more love and affection than he shows you, it may be time to leave. If he is not putting in the time now, how is he going to be able to handle when hard times come? Be with someone who loves you just as much as you love them.
Yes, no relationship is perfect, but no relationship has to be this terrible either. Think long and hard about what you can and should handle, before ending it for good.