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We have all heard of the stereotypical bridezilla, a bride who is self absorbed and gets very angry very quickly if she does not get her way with everything. A bridezilla cares about no one except herself, and tends to make wedding planning and activities pretty awful and dreadful for those around her. But there is another type of bride that many tend to forget about because all they do is worry about the bridezilla living under their roof.
A bridechilla is the exact opposite of a bridezilla. A bridechilla is okay with everything, laid back, and does not have tight control over everything. She will not hurt feelings just to get her way, rather compromise or be okay with anything and everything. A bride chilla is simply a chill bride.
But is being a bridechilla a bad thing? Is there such thing as being too chill? Are there any pros? The answers are sort of, yes, and yes. But if you want some more in depth reasoning as to why these are the responses to those questions, read on for some pros and cons for being a “chill bride”, or as we like to call them, bridechillas.
The Pros to Being a Bridechilla
1. You prove there is hope for humanity.
Dealing with a dramatic bride can make us lose hope sometimes. We fear that the world is coming to an end because the majesty herself is freaking out because the napkins do not match the silverware for the reception. So kudos to you, bridechillas. Your scarce freak out moments are appreciated!
2. It is more likely that you will be loved more by your friends and family.
A bridechilla refrains from whining and complaining to those around her. And let me tell you, if you as a bride do not whine about minor wedding details that are not going as planned, or you shrug your shoulders when you can’t afford your dream dress, your family is more likely to appreciate you more and more by the day.
3. You demonstrate that you care more about the outcome of your wedding, not the process of it.
Although a wedding can be the biggest day in a woman’s life, her marriage is for a lifetime. If a bride is more laid back and does not get easily frustrated when something goes wrong, do not fret. It just goes to show that the bride is more focused on starting her journey and marrying her future spouse and lover, not about what color the flowers end up being.
The Cons to Being a Bridechilla
1. You can become “too” chill.
This is totally a thing. When you are a bridechilla and are so indecisive and do not make any decisions at all (remember, this is YOUR wedding day), it can actually put a lot of pressure on others around you, whether that be the maid of honor or your parents. So, bridechillas, although it is great to not be uptight about every little decision and be nit picky with everything, you do need to make decisions, even if it is just “eenie meenie miney mo”.
2. You can procrastinate very easily.
Because a bridechilla is very chill and easygoing, many times, tasks do not get completed. This, once again, ends up falling on the shoulders of those around the bride. And most times, they will keep their mouths shut and simply do the work. So if you are a natural procrastinator, seek help to work with you on deadlines and organizations. But learn to complete the work yourself so you do not become a bridechilla extremist.
3. Your wedding could end up not at all how you had originally wanted it.
So if you are a bridechilla and have these amazing and awesome ideas in your head, then listen to this next statement well. FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THOSE AMAZING IDEAS. I know it may be hard to make decisions, but if you truly do not like something, do not hold back. Say it nicely that you want it differently. The last thing you want to end up with is a wedding completely different than what you had originally planned it!
In conclusion, your best bet is to be neither a bridezilla nor a bridechilla. Rather, find a happy medium. You need to have a voice in the decisions. But do not let your place as the bride take over your attitude and treat others poorly because you decide to be simply snobby. Remember, these are your close friends and family, so treat them with the respect they deserve. In the end, be a good bridechilla. Not a bad one.