Are you interested in settling down but can’t find the right guy? Take comfort in the fact that you are not alone! Research tells us there are more singles now than there ever have been before. But what research forgets to mention is that not all of these singles actually want to be single.
Trying to find the right man can be so frustrating. It’s hard to know where to look and how to make a move.
I have multiple friends who want to find the right guy and start a family. They’re all very nice, beautiful single ladies who are just having a hard time finding “the one.” In the same way, my husband also has a handful of single men friends who are finally ready to commit.
So how can single men and single women find each other? We’re here to share how to meet men in our modern world.
I’m not trying to be stereotypical here, but there are a lot of single men at the gym. And many of them are looking around the gym for a partner as well. While some feel that meeting men at the gym is undesirable because they’ll be sweaty, others like it for this exact reason. If you don’t belong to a gym, consider joining for the health benefits and the single men. My in-laws actually met at the gym as did some of my friends.
Obviously, we know that you can meet men at bars. But if you’re past that kind of scene, keep in mind that you can still meet guys at restaurants. Again, sometimes single guys are at happy hour for this exact reason. If you see someone, you’re interested in, and they appear to be alone or unmarried, buy him a drink. It’s a great way to get the ball rolling and hopefully start a conversation.
Clubs/Organizations/Charities/Fundraisers Around Town
Join an organization or club offered in your town. Sign up for a co-ed intramural team. Take singles dance classes. Participate in a book club. Or volunteer somewhere. The more you become involved in activities, the more likely it is you will meet new single men. And there are so many different types of activities to sign-up for. The great thing about this method is you will find someone who shares your interest in whatever the group is about. My brother and future sister-in-law actually met in a young professionals organization in our city.
A church or other religious organization you attend could be a great way to meet men. A bonus here is that you will most likely have the same beliefs, which can usually be one of the tougher things to address. You will have the same direction in life as well as the same goals. This is actually pretty common; in fact, I can’t even count how many people in my church started dating and then eventually wed.
Be on the lookout for single men at your job. This can be so simple because you will already have a built-in conversation topic. Plus, you can get to know the man and his work ethic before you make your move. My other brother met his wife while they both worked at a gas station. You just never know where you can meet someone great. However, be careful with this one. You don’t want your breakup or dating life to be the subject of office gossip.
Return To Your Roots
This may seem like a stretch, but it’s possible to reconnect with someone from your childhood or high school years. If you had a crush and know he is still single (perhaps from spying on Facebook), reach out to him! It could turn into a relationship. Or you could wait until a reunion hits and try to make your move then.
You could also tell both your family and friends that you are interested in dating. Ask if they know anyone who would be good for you. You might end up with some strange dudes this way, or you could find your other half.
Anywhere Besides Your Home
You are not going to find the man of your dreams while you are home watching Netflix and drinking wine. I tell this to my husband’s best friend all the time. You have to get out if you want to meet people. As you keep your mind and eyes open, you will notice that there are single men everywhere. And I bet many of them are looking for single women as well.
We’ve seen countless movie scenes where a couple meets each other in a random place. While I’m certainly not saying that movies portray relationships truthfully, it is possible to meet someone at the grocery store, at a local park, on the city bus, etc.; my parents met while my mom was walking home from the grocery store!
Online Dating Website
I don’t have to tell you how popular dating websites have become. It’s a less intimidating, convenient way to meet men. There are numerous success stories of couples meeting online, and many of them admit they were skeptical to try it. There are a ton of dating websites but here are the most popular:
- Zoosk.com-Created for all ages, free and easy to sign up, has certain chat features, 50 million members, a pool of local singles.
- Match.com-has over 29 million members, free to sign up, matching algorithm with a guided questionnaire, and a high success rate.
- Eharmony.com-This was the first dating website to use a scientific matching approach. It’s free and trustworthy.
- Elite Singles.com-ages 35 and up, has privacy settings and a guided questionnaire, and 5 million members.
Many of the dating websites are also available through apps. Some of the most liked are:
- Tinder- This is a well known, and very simple to use. Once you’ve created your profile, you can swipe right to like someone or swipe left to pass. If they swipe right too then, it’s a match. Only people you’ve matched with can message you.
- OkCupid Dating-Easy to use app with great reviews. Includes a variety of convenient features and known as “the best dating app on Earth.”
- Bumble-the app where women make the first move. Easy to use features with a time limit to respond.
Dating looks totally different than it has in the past, but one thing has stayed the same- we all want to be with someone we can enjoy life with. With all of those options, you are bound to find the right man. However, don’t you dare forget that you do not need a man to complete you. You are special and amazing regardless of your relationship status. I hope that these tips can help you to get out and meet some great men!