One of the hardest parts of adulthood is moving. It can be difficult to leave your hometown, community of set friends, or college campus. But, that doesn’t mean that you have to be alone forever. Though it’s great to keep all the great friends you already have, you need to invest in making new friends in your area. But how do you do that? And why is meeting new friends so tricky?
Look around at your new workplace and see if there is anyone who can be your new work BFF. Keep in mind that age doesn’t matter as much once you graduate from college. I am not telling you to befriend someone who is twenty years older than you with a family, but, it’s not weird to hang out with someone five or six years older than you. And, having a work best friend is a great way to learn the ins and outs of the business more efficiently.
When you move, announce it on your social media pages. That way, people who live in that area or who know people who live in that area, can connect you. You might be surprised at the people from your college who have located to where you are going to be or family members of friends. Don’t be afraid to reach out to these people when you first move to get drinks or just hang out sometime.
Go Out In Public
It can be easy when you move somewhere and are living alone, to never want to go out. Ever. To just cuddle up in your cozy clothes and cry about not having friends at home. But, don’t do that. I am not suggesting that you go clubbing or drinking by yourself, but what about going to the gym or a cute café? While you’re people watching at Starbucks, why not strike up a conversation with the person in front of you in line? If you are walking around the block, take the time to say hello to the people you pass. I know that these little steps can seem super scary, but these brief interactions might lead to fruitful friendships. Either way, just being surrounded by other people is going to help you feel like you’re not alone.
Like I mentioned above, the gym is a great way to get yourself out of your house or apartment, and even meet some friends. Most gyms offer classes that you can attend each week. Usually, people regularly attend the same sessions, which gives you the opportunity to chat with people and see them on a regular basis. It’s really a win-win situation. Get friends and get fit at the same time.
Many apps on the market like Bumble and MeetUp, allow you to join activities in your area or find new people to befriend. Bumble allows you to find not only your love interest but also your new best friend. MeetUp creates different activities in your area which you can join at your leisure. They include simple things from watching movies to going on bus trips to cities. You can find even more friend-finding apps here.
Join A Small Group
If you are someone who goes to church, joining a small group may be the way to go. Small groups usually are groups of 10 girls and guys or less, and they study different books of the Bible. But, a small group gives you a tangible group of people you can hang out and invite over. And, because it is normally a weekly event, you know you can count on seeing these people regularly.
Volunteering is a great way to help others, and meet other people who may have passions similar to yours. Now that the holiday season is approaching, there is no shortage of ways you can start to serve others. Think about what you are passionate about, and then Google opportunities to serve that way in your area. You may be surprised by the possibilities and friendships you find.
Get A Pet
Now, this might be more of a stretch, but get a dog or cat. Especially dogs, give you the opportunity to take them on walks regularly. By walking your cute dog around, you may have people stop to pet him or her. And, who knows? Maybe one of those people can be your new best friend. I know, a stretch. But, you never know what brief conversation will lead to a blossoming friendship.
Put Yourself Out There
Make an effort to invest in getting to know these people. If you have met some people that you could see yourself hanging out with, invite them to go out to dinner or get coffee. Though you may be nervous at first, it will pay off. And I have never met anyone who is offended that you wanted to get to know them better. So, take a step and stab in the dark, and try to plan something to do with a potential new friend this weekend.
Making new friends, especially in a new location, can be challenging. But, I hope that these tips can help get you started and your social calendar a little fuller! For tips on conquering loneliness when living alone, check out our article here.