Every bride thinks she has this one in the bag. She knows that her wedding will be the best one her guests have ever been to, and will do anything in her power to make it that way if it is not heading in that direction. She knows everything down to the minor details. Whatever it takes to make her guests happy, she will do.
Like I said, every bride thinks this. And while I have no doubt you are doing an excellent job planning and that your wedding will be beautiful no matter what, there are some hidden things that makes wedding guests go banana crazy if they happen. The reason why you may have never thought of these things is because no guest would ever confront you about it, which is why we have provided that list for you.
Consider these things when thinking of your guests. In order to please everyone and not have a grumpy gills attending your wedding, take some of these suggestions into consideration. It may save a lot of hassle and pain!
1. Starting the ceremony earlier than the invitation says.
I know. You are anxious and ready, and it seems like the majority of the guests are there. But do not, under any circumstance, begin until the time listed on the invites. If they are late, that is their problem. But the last thing you want is someone upset because they missed some part or the majority of your ceremony.
2. The speeches have too many inside jokes that no one understands.
Inside jokes are fun, and one will definitely not hurt anyone. But when a best man or maid of honor’s speech is filled with endless inside jokes, your crowd will become bored very quickly, not to mention annoyed. So make sure you share some speech etiquette with your favorite peeps before the big day.
3. The speeches are six hours long and dull.
Do yourself and your guests a favor. Give your maid of honor and the best man a short amount of time, and tell them to practice and get it within that amount of time. You do not want someone dragging on for fifteen minutes about all the stupid things you did together in high school. Trust me on this one.
4. Sitting at a table with strangers.
It is awkward, without a doubt. If you decide to forgo the free seating and are wanting arranged seating, then at least use some common sense and sit people next to someone else that they know. If there is someone who absolutely does not know anyone, then sit them next to someone who is friendly and welcoming, and who can make easy conversation. So in other words, do not sit all the shy strangers at one table.
5. Vague directions.
Yes, there is a magical thing called a GPS! But for the older folks who insist on using their US atlas to get them places, or directions, then you need to make sure you give clear directions to the venue. Especially if it is at a farther away venue that many of your guests are not familiar with.
6. When there is no dancing.
That is the great thing about dancing! Not everyone has to do it, but for those who feel more comfortable getting crazy on the dance floor, it is perfect for them to get loose! So even if you are not a big fan of dancing, still have at least a small dance floor offered for those who love dancing at weddings!
7. Cash bars (c’mon, they are the worst!).
While a cash bar is definitely more expensive, nothing ticks off guests more than having to purchase their alcohol. It is wise to have some alcohol drinks for free, and then if others want something more extravagant, then they can pay for it. This is a happy medium, plus people will get the alcohol they are desiring, but it will not cost you as much of an arm and leg.
8. Hot outdoor weddings or cold outdoor weddings.
So if you are going to have an August wedding or an October wedding outdoors, be prepared! Have fans for the hot, blazing summer weddings, or have blankets and gloves for the fall days. The weather can call for whatever it wants to, but until the actual day arrives, you never know what to expect!
9. When the bride and groom do not visit someone’s table.
It is your job as the bride and groom to get around to all the guests and thank them for attending your special day. They took the time to come and celebrate you, so they deserve a thanks! Skipping out on the table of obnoxious aunts and uncles is not the way to handle things. Be wise.
10. When the dance music is for the younger generation only.
If you decide to have dancing (and if you are considering no, you obviously skipped number six), then make sure to have a variety of music selected. Have some from the fifties, eighties, today’s hits and pop, and everything in between! You want to make sure to have a variety so that even the old folks can feel like they can get out on the floor and “jive”!
11. When the speeches are done drunk.
Make sure your maid of honor and the best man are sober before they give their wedding speeches. The last thing you want for your guests to remember is that the speeches were inappropriate, embarrassing, and crude.
12. When there is too much awkward time in between the ceremony and reception.
It is very hard to take photos in between the ceremony and reception, and it is even harder to take photos quickly in between. So, if you are wanting to take your time with the photos, then have something prepared to keep the guests entertained. Whether it be lawn games, indoor board games, or some pre-dancing, make sure they are occupied. If you are not interested in doing these things, then you better make sure your photos are taken quickly.
13. Misspelled names on invites or misspelled words on other signs.
If you mess up someone’s last name or spell a simple word wrong, it just makes you look sloppy and inconsiderate. So make sure you have friends and family triple check your invites, place cards, and programs before you get them printed. It is something so small that can easily be ignored. So do not make the mistake of doing it anyway!